If You are in Your 20s, Read This

Before we start, I need to be honest with you.

Last Sunday, I sat down to reflect on life, and it hit me; I’m 32.

But honestly, I don’t feel my age. It feels like, I was 22 just yesterday, figuring things out one step at a time.

Even now, as I write this edition, I feel only two things:

A) Nostalgia for the carefree days and

B) Amazement at how much I’ve grown.

Now, here’s what I’ve realized in my reflection: Your 20s aren’t about having life figured out. They’re about trying, failing, learning, and growing.

But let’s be real; 20s also come with pressure. You’re expected to build a career, find love, and somehow “have it all together.”

And as your big sis (as most of you call me), I can’t let you waste these years.

So, if you’re in your 20s and feeling lost, here are 6 things I wish someone had told me back then:

➡️ You don’t need to have it all figured out

Your 20s are about building the foundation for your future.

So, instead of stressing about “the perfect path,” focus on developing habits, skills, and experiences that will serve you in the long run.

Think of it like planting seeds. How you manage your health, work ethic, and emotional resilience now will shape the person you become in your 30s and beyond.

And if we look at the research, it shows that our brain doesn’t fully develop until age 25, especially the prefrontal cortex, which controls decision-making and impulse control. So if you feel uncertain, that’s completely normal.

So, stop mapping it all out and experiment with different jobs, hobbies, and lifestyles. Your future self will thank you.

➡️ The people you surround yourself with will shape your future

Jim Rohn once said, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."

And honestly?

It’s true.

The friends you keep will influence your mindset, habits, and even your success. So, try and surround yourself with people who push you to grow, challenge your thinking, and genuinely support you.

Friendships should feel energizing, and not draining. If you’re always the one giving and never receiving, it’s okay to reevaluate your circle.

➡️Take care of your health

I know late-night takeout and skipping workouts seem harmless now, but your body keeps score of every little action you are taking for or against it.

Small health choices now compound over time either in a good way or a bad way.

And it’s not just a big sister suggestion, even science backs this up. As per the study, your metabolism slows down as you age, and habits formed in your 20s become much harder to break later.

Therefore, prioritize movement, sleep, and nutrition. And please, wear sunscreen even if you are indoors. You’ll thank me when you're 40 and wrinkle-free.

➡️ Learn how to manage your money

Nobody teaches us how to handle money, but financial stress is one of the biggest causes of anxiety in adulthood.

Therefore, if you are just starting out, start small:

• Create a budget every month to track your entire finances.

• Start an emergency fund (even 5000 makes a difference.)

• Learn about investing early because money = freedom. The more control you have over it, the less it controls you.

Btw, I have a dedicated video on this so make sure to watch it by clicking on this link.

➡️ Be patient because good things take time

We live in a world of instant gratification, but in reality, all good things take time to bloom. Whether it’s your career, relationships, or personal growth, trust the process.

Many of you have shared that they feel as if they’re “falling behind”  just because they see someone their age doing something impressive on social media.

But this constant comparison and undermining yourself will take you nowhere. Because, what social media shows you is an edited and highlighted version of life, and not real life. Your journey is yours alone, and comparison will only steal your joy.

So, put your hand in front of your heart and say “All is well.”

➡️ Enjoy the ride

As I mentioned in the 1st point, your 20s are a time of adventure, discovery, and memories you’ll cherish forever. So, don’t rush through them worrying about the future so much that you forget to live in the present.

Make mistakes. Laugh too much. Travel when you can. Stay up all night talking with friends. Be fully present in the moments that matter, because these years? They go by really fast.

One moment you are here reading this piece, and the next you will find yourself where I am today, sipping coffee and sharing your take on 20s with all those who need to hear it.

So, these are a few I thought I should address first. Let me know if you want me to write a part 2 version of this.

And if no one has told you this today, let me be that person.

I believe in you and you got this. 💛